So, stop letting it stop you from starting.
I just finished watching La La Land. And, oh, I found myself totally bummed by the ending.
I’m not planning to tell it to you, if like me you’re a little slow on the uptake.
But, oh, got, it killed me to not see the fairy tale play out.
And, it got me thinking, how many times have you stopped chasing your dreams because you thought that the ending wouldn’t be perfect?
Because you thought, at some point, that it might just be a bit hard?
That playing it safe was a better option than opening up for a broken heart?
That working the traditional model was better than being a pioneer. IT was better than breaking ground?
That feeling the comfortableness of the known is better than a lifetime of thinking,
What if I would have just stepped out?
What if I would have just stepped up?
What if I moved from the shadows and took the lead role?
What if I allowed the vulnerability of being a dreamer to become the satisfaction of being a success?
Staying in anyone’s shadows or expectations is a recipe for unhappiness.
The longer you stay there, the harder it gets to step out.
Boundaries must be set on this new space.
A voice must be created.
A flicker of a flame that is burning must be fuelled.
AND AT SOME POINT, you must STEP UP or STEP OUT.
Working with your husband can suck arse. And it can be hard.
You, all day, thinking for 3,4,5 maybe 6 people. And who does he think of? Just probably what his needs are and what’s next.
You pick up all the things that NEED to be done, not the things that make you tick.
And then, when you tell him what you need from him, he is so used to hearing you talk to him at home that all he hears is , “JUST ANOTHER THING I HAVE TO DO/ CHANGE … ‘
Your space in the the world – in your business – is so much greater than being the supporter.
Right now, it needs you more than you know.
For the vision to become a reality, it needs the power of your WOMAN. It needs your ability to see the bigger picture.
IT NEEDS YOUR FAIRY TALE.
It needs you to come in to your own.
TO STEP UP
TO STAND OUT
TO SHOUT TO BE HEARD
TO FUCKING FULFILL THE THINGS YOU WERE BUILT FOR.
Life is not a fairy tale.
I get it.
But, why should we give up on what our heart screams for,
just because you didn’t START the business,
just because you followed your innate feminine desire to bear children,
just because you’re not even technically skilled to do these things your husband’s business needs you to?
And it’s time.
The images you see of so many couples who work together, like us, are one of harmony. Like, we make this shit look easy.
LIKE WE’VE GOT THE FAIRYTALE WORKING.
Like we know how to share a name, share our children, share the load, share a business and share a bed.
And Christ, we do. And, it’s taken a lot of years to build up the strategies to get us there. It’s taken hours of conversations and a pre-determined code to arrive in this space.
It’s taken moments of fury, when I’ve just had enough of seeing his face.
And, shit, some days I want to throw in the towel too.
Some days, I think it’s not going to work.
BUT ON THOSE DAYS I’M REMINDED THAT THE FAIRY TALE WON’T ALWAYS TURN OUT THE WAY I had dreamed.
But, shit, if you have chased your dreams your whole life, does it matter?
Working with your husband can TOTALLY FULFILL YOU.
And, wow, if you don’t work with your other half and have still made it this far in my story, then whatever you want from your life is TOTALLY POSSIBLE.
It can totally be the space that allows you to step in to what ever it is that you are GREAT at.
Whatever it is that you see the world needs from you right now.
But, fuck, you need to decide.
You need to let the fairy tale be created.
What do you want? And when do you want it?
And most importantly, how does HE fit in to YOUR plan?
Being a woman who also is a mother and a wife, can be a massive ask.
But it’s time.
The ending may indeed not play out like the fairy tale you created, but isn’t it worth you at least having a shot?
With so much love,